Dating hot and cold guy
Put simply, a needy person doesn’t feel good inside and then saddles the other person with the responsibility to make them feel better… whoops, “my battery died, sorry I didn’t call you back last night.” Nobody’s perfect. When you boil it all down, neediness is not some set of behaviors. When a person takes on the belief that another person is responsible for their happiness, their sense of well-being and their sense of self-esteem, then it’s guaranteed that they’re going to act needy as a result of that mindset.
(FYI, we have a whole chapter on this in our new book “He’s Not That Complicated: How to Crack a Man’s Romantic Code to Get the Relationship You Want“) Even the kindest, most well-meaning, most empathetic guy won’t be able to satisfy a woman who acts needy the majority of the time. I would be pretty surprised if you never had a needy guy around you. Making someone else responsible for your emotions is a key ingredient in creating a toxic relationship type dynamic, so it’s very important to guard against doing that (as well as recognize when others are doing that towards you).
The last thing you want to do is put your life on hold and stand around waiting for one man. It’s like saying, “I’m so crazy about you, I’ll take whatever I can get.” And that is never attractive to a man.
Every man secretly wants to be with a woman who puts herself first.
You’re on edge, and you can only relax when he’s with you – but you never know exactly when that’s going to be.Then, suddenly, he doesn’t call as often as he used to. Or when he’s with you, you sense he’s not really there, and it hurts.We’ve all been there, and it feels absolutely awful.Note that I said “made myself,” because I know how challenging this is!
But you have to trust me (and yourself) to know that even when it feels scary to step back and take care of yourself, it’s the best – and most attractive thing – you can do.
Or, he’ll leave you alone; and you’ll find out he wasn’t worth your time and heart anyway. And since you were keeping your options open, you have a number of other suitors who are happily standing by. It worked so well for me that I decided to create my e Book so I could share what I learned with women like you.